{"id":1984,"date":"2020-05-21T07:18:00","date_gmt":"2020-05-21T11:18:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dwan.org\/?p=1984"},"modified":"2020-05-25T06:31:41","modified_gmt":"2020-05-25T10:31:41","slug":"not-backward","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dwan.org\/index.php\/2020\/05\/21\/not-backward\/","title":{"rendered":"Not backward"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>I&#8217;ll be honest, I don&#8217;t want to go back to the &#8220;normal&#8221; we had in February.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I was killing myself with business travel. It was a slow sort of killing &#8230; but killing nonetheless. I was on a train most weeks and a plane most months. I was on track to hit lifetime platinum status with Marriott &#8211; more than 50 room nights a year for 10 years. A year and a half of my life in hotels.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For what?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now I exercise almost every day, at least a little bit. I stock the fridge once a week, mostly with veggies and selected meats. Ordering delivery is a special treat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>My spouse and I have worked out patterns in our daily routines to let us be this close without killing each other. We&#8217;re going to keep many of those. We should have done that years ago.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I&#8217;ve re-connected with people and communities, and even made art. That was always available, I just didn&#8217;t make time for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Work meetings include space to check in with the other people in the room. We&#8217;re making accommodations for each other in ways that we never did before. Never ever. We know more about each other, and it&#8217;s okay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Honestly, video hangout meals in the evenings with friends are -better- than physically getting together in many ways. Not least, the obligation to clean up the whole house, agree on food for everybody, and so on simply disappears. It&#8217;s all about showing up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Seeing people in person is truly precious. We&#8217;ve gotten careful with each other&#8217;s space and vulnerability.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We all realize now, I hope, that the truly &#8220;essential&#8221; employees are the underpaid, ill treated, and all-too-frequently invisible laborers, drivers, cooks, and cleaners on whom we build our posh life. I hope we can go ahead and PAY them fairly rather than just blathering on about heroism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I hope that as we re-open, for all the good reasons that we need to re-open, that we can keep some of what we&#8217;ve learned here.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I don&#8217;t want to go back to killing myself.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ll be honest, I don&#8217;t want to go back to the &#8220;normal&#8221; we had in February. I was killing myself with business travel. It was a slow sort of killing &#8230; but killing nonetheless. I was on a train most weeks and a plane most&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[47,61],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1984","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-covid","category-just-bloggin"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwan.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1984","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwan.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwan.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwan.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwan.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1984"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/dwan.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1984\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1985,"href":"https:\/\/dwan.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1984\/revisions\/1985"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwan.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1984"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwan.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1984"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwan.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1984"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}